Sunday, August 31, 2014

Do you

Ever have a friend give you the one raised eye brow look? Also known as the "what in the world are you doing? You're a goof" look. I've received it many a time, but I've also given it. We might not always understand one another, and we usually all experience moments of embarrassment when others don't follow our train of thought. Thing is, we're all completely different people, so there will be times when we don't see everything eye to eye. That is ok. Cause hun, just do you.

It's so tiring trying to worry about what others think of you, or trying to keep yourself in a "socially acceptable" box. Who gives a hoot? If we're being honest, it's not like society's standards are all that great nowadays. Plus, while it is a problem that everyone is so concerned about how the world perceives them, maybe that fact can help you begin to loosen up. If everyone is concerned about how they come off, they probably aren't focusing on you. Not that you aren't important or worth being focused on (because you are!), but relax, because most people are in the same boat as you.

Let me tell you, it is so freeing and so much fun to just be who you are. God didn't mess up, so don't worry about other people thinking you're messed up. Now, I suppose I ought to provide a check to all this advice. While you should be who you are, don't take this to mean you shouldn't seek to improve and grow. We all have things we can work on, so be you, but also look to be the best you that you can be! At the end of the day though, just do you :)

Saturday, August 2, 2014

The Friend Zone

We've all seen the movie where a great guy likes his friend, but she responds in turn by placing him in the dreaded "friend zone." We all boo and think how could she do that. But even within the past few hours, I've been thinking that maybe the "friend zone" is the best place to be.

True, no one wants to be rejected or have feelings for someone who doesn't return them. However, I do know we all want to be with someone who makes us laugh. Someone who will go on absurd adventures with us just because. Someone who'll hug us after a bad day. And someone who totally gets us. We all want to be able to be in a relationship with our best friend.

I tend to er on the side of thinking I'll one day meet the man of my dreams and we'll live happily ever after from that moment on... oh wait, I've known him all of two hours. Yes, there are those incredibly romantic stories of people meeting and knowing on the spot they'll get married. But more often than not, love stories bloom out of the years of a beautiful friendship. I think the better you know someone the deeper you can love them. You may not want to be just friends right now, but enjoy it anyway. If it's meant to be, that friendship will end up being the base on which your romantic relationship is built.

I don't know about you, but when I think ahead to my wedding day, I picture myself being ecstatic about being able to officially start spending the rest of my life married to my best friend, not to a stranger. So, this "friend zone?" Maybe it's not all that bad after all.